Man’s Search for Meaning

At some point I will likely do a more fulsome review of Under Saturn’s Shadow but what I want to dig into quickly is just how lost men are in today’s society. I don’t know enough generations back to see where it started for my male lineage, but somewhere along the line we got off the right track and it is my assumption that every man was left to try to figure it out themselves. Unfortunately I think my line has an all too common story.

Men today occur to me as lost and I agree with James Hollis’ assessment that men use personas of successful with women or successful in business to define themselves as men. If you are reading this passage then you have probably figured out that those are both dead ends.

So that does leave us a little bit out of luck. No one to teach us and the most common answers a little disjointed. But all is not lost. I think we actually owe a debt of gratitude to our sisters here. Not only were they able to break free of their own gender roles and expectations, but their insistance on us become softer and more in touch with our emotions was doubly effective as both a useful tool and as an impetus for a rebellion back to masculine polarity.

In my new experience we are living in a golden age of being a man. Yes, the rules are a little hazy and the patriarchy really dug a hole for us to have to dig out of. But I do think, and have seen firsthand, what the modern man is capable of becoming and the leadership and depth they can bring to the world. This is the journey I am on and it is one of integration of my masculine and feminine gifts. I invite you to join me and lets see what we can discover together.